They can only have the amount of power over you that you allow them from the get go
I've seen so much poetry about, "he did this, she took that", and, "I'm still in love with so and so"

It's not on the person that you're with to control your emotions, those are on you
It's their job to be supportive and love you through the calm times, and the feuds

And if it's over, it's over... no matter how strongly you fight against it
Accepting that allows you to regain your power, regardless of whether or not it makes you feel like shit

Otherwise, you feel empty and dead inside for months longer than necessary
As you have let go of your power over yourself in a codependent bout of frenzy

This type of behavior does nothing for you or the person that you claim to still love
In fact, it's a selfish act to mourn what is past, playing the part of the wounded dove

I don't claim to be innocent of this myself, I know that I was codependent for years
That's why I've written so many lamenting poems along the lines of "Memory's Tears"

Yet, at the same time, the logical part of my mind refutes my former whining
And my conscience eats at me constantly every time I get depressed and, once again, start pining

For all the days as they were, and what she did to me when we were one
But, after much soul searching, I've realized that that kind of thought avails me none

Just think about the amount of control you allow a memory to have over your life
And live facing forward, never let the past constantly scar you with memories' knife

-David "Dingo" Bleecher